My boyfriend of last 8 years is suddenly changing. He’s saying he has always been this way, but kept it hidden. (I’m referring to sexual desires, like BDSM and stuff). He made a secrete Tumblr, thinking that I wouldn’t find out about it. I saw a message to another guy who lives about an hour away. He was wanting to hook up, supposedly to include me into a 3-way. I’ve told him a long time ago, that the one time we tried was all I was willing to do. What is your advice?

By your submission, I’m not sure if I’m talking to a male or female blog follower, but what I will say is if you are not interested in a 3-way, that is your choice and should be respected. If he’s talking to other guys, trying to set up something you have told him you are not interested in doing, shame on him. It’s your body and your choice, ALWAYS. I hope you talk to him and are able to make him understand how u feel. Please don’t ever let anyone force you to do something sexual, that you don’t want to do. If he continues this, knowing you don’t want this, I’d seriously consider if it’s a relationship you should be in. Best of luck to you and always know, it’s your body!