What a weekend!

Wow what a weekend, we started out with Aaron, Jeremy and myself on Friday, then once R&B, (ryan and brandon) dropped off the boys, Colton and Bryan, it was on! Kids stared showing up to see them and Jeremy, then my cousin Jax and Kyle came by, then my brother, his girlfriend and my niece showed up, I think I lost count how many we had here throughout the weekend but the last ones just left, so it’s back to our little family, and I have to say we are ALL wiped out! Aaron’s napping on the couch, Jeremy is in his room quietly doing his homework and I’m sitting next to Aaron relaxing and writing in my iPad. Once I recover I’ll finish laundry and any left over dishes in the sink and get our house back in order! As crazy as it was, we absolutely love our family and friends! We are blessed! ❤️💛💚💜💙

Parenthood Update

I didn’t want to say anything just yet on this subject since we have been talking to adoption services but we have also been meeting with a surrogate to have a baby for us. She is a close friend and we have now begun talks with attorneys to see if we can make this happen. It’s getting exciting around here! We think this is actually going to happen! After our talk with her last night, she’s ready to commit to helping us. 😏

Presidents Day

I LOVE having my husband home on a holiday! It was a cold morning but the sun is out and we are BBQing chicken for lunch and making extra to add to a Chicken Caesar Salad for dinner tonight! Not to be too political but we are celebrating PAST presidents, not the so-called president we have residing in the White House today.

Runaway & National Student March

Well that was a crazy weekend, we pretty much had a long discussion with Jeremy about him wanting to get involved in the National Student March on gun safety, as this was all going on, one of his best friends showed up at our door late Saturday night, he had run away from home. After Aaron and I talked to him, Aaron told him if he was to stay here, he had to agree to let Aaron call his dad and let him know he was safe but here. Thank god Aaron is so good talking to people, he convinced his dad it was safer for him to stay the night here then send him back onto the streets and we would work oh getting him back home so they could try to figure out how to get past their issues. Wow this parenting thing is kinda hard sometimes! I’m just lucky I have such an awesome understanding husband! Jeremy’s friend is back home and he and his parents are working things out, as for Jeremy, he wants to go to Washington for the student march on March 24th, we suggested maybe getting involved with one of the more local Student marches BUT if he really wants to go, I’d have to go with him, if I can work that out, work wise, we will have to plan flights and such. We are open to it if we can make it work. We are just happy to see him want to get involved and be so passionate about it. Who knew parenting would lead to this but we are really proud of him for wanting to take a stand on this issue!

Adoption

We have an appointment set with with our adoption attorney next week! We are still open to surrogacy but we are also open to adoption. So at least we finally have an appointment to start talking more about adoption. I’ll let you guys know if anything comes of it. Even tho we’ve already discussed having another child with Jeremy, We will be talking to him again tonight about it so he’s always aware that we want him part of our decisions with regards to our family. ❤️

What kind of Decor is your house. Would it set off gaydar? If you weren’t walking hand in hand on the street would you set off gaydar?

waistbandboy:

About the only thing in our house that would set off gaydar is a picture in the hallway with two guys embracing, as for us, we are told quite often that if we weren’t holding hands or showing our love of each other that most people wouldn’t assume we are gay. Honestly we don’t care either way if people assume we are gay, since we are! We do hold hands a lot out in public too. 👬

This question was asked well before we were married, so since then we do have wedding pictures plus many others of us, including family pictures of the three of us. So I’d say we are like most of our other married friends (straight and gay) that proudly display our favorite photos of our family on our walls.

Christmas Tradition

Last year it was our first year having Jeremy in our life and he asked if we could start a Christmas tradition of baking Christmas cookies the day before Christmas Eve, so yesterday we spent our second year of our Christmas tradition together baking cooking for our friends and family! Last year I think we made about 6 dozen cookies to share, this year about 24 dozen minus the few we ate as we were baking. We had Christmas music playing and the three of us looked as if we had fallen into the flour! So many laughs and good times together as our little family celebrates the holidays together.

Merry Christmas to all of my friends on tumblr from my family to yours! 🎄

Girls

waistbandboy:

Last night Aaron nudged me to look over at two girls kissing and when I looked one of the girls said “what the fuck are you looking at?” Aaron being Aaron told her I was just telling my husband how beautiful you two are! She apologized and he offered to buy them a drink, so they sat down with us and we ordered us all a drink. Turns out some guy was talking shit to them earlier in the night and she thought we were going to do the same. We ended up hanging out and talking with them for a couple hours and they actually were pretty sweet girls. We also found out one of them works with a local teen LGBT group and that she was one of the teens they once helped. At 17 her parents kicked her out for being gay and now she’s helping other LGBT teens. I was telling her about my blog and that I try to help give advice online and she invited me to come and check out where she works and that they are always looking for volunteers. I told her I’d love to go check it out. So it’s set, I’m going to a group meeting they have on Sundays!! I’m so excited!!

Original Waistbandboy Content 😏 Because of this night. I ended up volunteering at that center, where I eventually met Jeremy, yes the Jeremy we ended up adopting ❤️

Coming Out (2nd Part)

waistbandboy:

So I left off where I told my 3 best friends first, now I had to tell my mom and dad. When my mom got home she said she figured my friends would still be there, so I told her there was something I wanted to talk to her about so they went home. She said what’s going on?? I said, you might be better if you sit down, so we went in the kitchen and sat down. I started by saying how much I love her and I had something I needed to share with you and dad but thought it might be better if I told you first. So she said ok, go ahead. I told here this is the hardest thing I’ve even done and that after I tell you this, please think about it before you respond. I then said just remember, I’m the same person I was this morning when I left for school. Then I said mom, I’m gay and of course the baby I am, I started crying. She jumped up and hugged me and now we were both crying. After we hugged and cried she told me, I have to tell you something now, I was like yeah? She said Michael, I’m your mom, do you think I didn’t know? I asked her how she knew and she said well first clue was your fancy underwear you always had to have, the way you had your clothes all hung up and color coded in your closet and not to embarrass you but I know how to check the history on the computer and I’ve seen a few porn sites you looked at. I’ve been waiting for the day you would tell me. I asked if my dad knows and she said no. I asked how do u think he’s going to take it when I tell him and she said you are not telling him, I am. She has been reading on the subject and wants him to accept me and think before he talks so we keep the relationship we have now. I asked her if she would tell him tonight. She said she would, after dinner and everyone was in bed. She told me that she loves me no matter what and that she will always be there for me. She gave me a huge hug and said guess what? I said what? She said, you’re still the same son I had when u left for school this morning and winked at me. She talked about the challenges I’d be facing, stuff like that. We had a long talk and also talked about her fears, for me mostly and how others would see or accept me. Anyway after everyone got home they had dinner, my sister went out and my brother went to bed and I went to my room (which is outside the house) My heart was pounding like crazy because I knew my mom was talking to my dad and it seemed to take forever. After about an hour I went in the house quietly and I could hear her talking, he wasn’t saying anything. I heard her say you either accept him for who he is and respect him or lose him. I tried to listen but it seemed like it was all her talking. She actually made a lot of sense and had obviously been ready for this day. I went back to my room and after a while she knocked at my door and came in. She sat on my bed with me and said, don’t worry, he’s going to be ok. He’s always going to love you but give him some time to digest everything. She said he wasn’t mad, just more shocked and broke down and cried. She said he was asking her how would I handle how mean people can be stuff like that. So he was more worried about me then anything else. I asked how long before I should talk to him, and she said I promise, he will talk to you by tomorrow, just let him think about what she told him and let it sink in. We hugged again and she told me she loved me and she went out. A while later I was falling asleep when there was a knock at the door, I said come in thinking it was my mom, it was my dad. He came in and sat on my bed and told me, this might take me a while but I want you to understand, I’m your dad and love you with all my heart and leaned over, gave me a hug and a kiss on the forehead (like he always does) and said let’s talk more tomorrow. When he walked out, you guessed it, I cried like a baby!!! My friends know and my parents know! What a relief! I knew more was to come but the most important people in my lives still loved me!! As a side note, Kevin stopped hanging out with me but I never heard that he told anyone. Well there you go. That’s my story.

Coming out Part 2 – Family Thanks again to my blog followers that had both parts so I could share them again! 💙