waistbandboy:
A couple days ago I received a message from one of my awesome followers about our nervousness to hold hands in public, not wanting to to make others around us uncomfortable. After a long talk yesterday morning, we figured out that it is in fact making us uncomfortable by not being able to be the couple we want to be. His words really made us think about it being so wrong that straight couples can do it but we can’t, the truth is, we can and have every right to hold hands if we want to. Here are a few of his words that got us talking and thinking about this subject,
“The more it is done, the more accepted it will be. You are young and can contribute to the trend. Hold Aaron’s hand proudly”
Our conversation also went into the fact that we are now married because of the sacrifices of so many others before us, and everything they went through to make marriage possible for us. So we have decided that we are going to be a little braver and if and when we want to hold hands, we are going to do it. It’s not like we are making out in public, we’re just being two guys that love each other and are not afraid to show it. For Aaron its a little harder to be open in public like that but we are going to try.
So yesterday, on more then a few occasions, we walked around in public, holding hands. Was it scary? Actually yes it was, but we are going to do it, not only for us, but for all the other guys that live with the same fear we feel. Maybe we can do our small part to make it as it should be, normal!
If you see a same sex couple walking by holding hands, give them a smile, wink or even just a small nod of your head, to let them know you support them.
Holding Hands: I love reading these old “waistbandboy” posts as it reminds me some of the times we went through as a newly married couple with not only fitting in as a proud couple but knowing that just maybe, we were helping others to be ok with doing the same thing. In February it will be our 3rd wedding anniversary and I’m proud to say, we hold hands quite a bit now, as it’s become a “normal” way for us to show our love out in public. Do we still get funny or dirty looks at times? Yes we do but overall, most people don’t even take a second look anymore. It’s who we are! 💙